Paula
PAULA ANN CARABELLI 1948 - 2006 Paula Ann Carabelli passed away on July 28, 2006 surrounded by her beloved family after a short, but characteristically courageous battle with cancer. Born on January 17, 1948 in Chicago, Illinois, Paula was the daughter of Paul M. and Ada A. Carabelli. The family moved to Los Angeles when Paula was two years old and she continued to reside in the city for most of her life. A graduate of Bishop Alemany High School in Mission Hills, Paula earned a B.A. in Visual Arts from UC San Diego and a Masters Degree in Public Health from UCLA. She began her career as a teacher and always placed great value on the importance of higher education. She was an Executive Search Consultant and Partner in the international firm of Spencer Stuart where she was held in high esteem by all of her colleagues and clients. She excelled professionally, not only because of her dedication and hard work, but also because of her gift for building and nurturing lasting relationships. Paula cherished her family and her wide circle of friends, all of whom loved and respected her immensely. She is survived by her husband, Thomas M. Fallo of Torrance, her daughter, Emily Rose Wing of Laguna Beach, her sister, Barbara Batalia (husband Gene) of San Diego, and her nieces, Annica Gressingh (husband Eric L.) of Irvine, and Chiara Batalia of San Diego. A Mass will be celebrated at 10:00 a.m. Wednesday, August 2, 2006 at St. Lawrence Martyr Catholic Church, 1900 South Prospect Avenue, Redondo Beach, California. A viewing will be held starting at 9:15 a.m. in the vestibule of the church. At the request of the family, in lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the Paula Carabelli Memorial Scholarship Fund, El Camino College Foundation, 16007 Crenshaw Blvd., Torrance, CA 90506.

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  1. It hardly seems possible that I only met Paula a decade ago. I feel like I’ve always known her. We will all miss her empathetic and nurturing ways, carefully doused in reality.

  2. I was blessed to have known Paula during my years at Alemany and after 40 yrs I still remember the impact she made on me. She was wonderful to be around and her kindness and thoughtfulness made everyone around her a better person. I will always think of her as the most admirable person at school and certainly someone I admired. My heartfelt condolences go to her entire family and especially her husband and daughter. My maiden name was Lussier and I was so glad to have been able to send an email to her while she was still with us to let her know what an impact she had made in my life even though we had not seen each other in many years. Hold on to all the great memories and find peace and joy in knowing she lived a “Christlike” life. God Bless. Monique Lussier Padberg

  3. I was so sorry to hear of Paula’s passing. She left such an impact on me. I have not seen her since we left Alemany but my memories of her are vivid. A kinder, more compassionate person I have never met. When I think of her, the first word that comes to mind is tranquility. Being near her left me with a feeling that all was well in the world. God bless her, and her family.

  4. Dear All, I am one of the many people who adored Paula. I got to know her through a friend, Rebecca Chopp, who is now the President of Colgate University. As a result, she did several searches for me when I was provost at Syracuse University. Need I tell you all how superbly she did them?! Of course she did her work with great aplumb. But the most remarkable thing about her was how she worked–every individual with whom she interacted was special. She treated each candidate with sensitivity and respect. It was incredible to me as it rarely is that way with others. After returning from vacation in late May, Paula called me concerned about what had happened to me at UCLA and why I had declined to be chancellor. I have no idea if she knew she was sick them. But she didn’t tell me if she did. In her characteristic way, she was consoling me. And, of course, had Paula known, she probably would have mentioned it in passing and still worried about me. Given that we shared the health field, I would never have left her off the hook as I would have been moved to show my concern for her as deeply as she showed it to me. She was absolutely incredible. I am stunned and miss her deeply already. I send my heartfelt condolences to her family and to the multitude that adored and respected her the way I did. Deborah Freund

  5. My sincere condolences to Paula’s husband, daughter and family. I only knew Paula casually but enjoyed her company immensely. She was a lovely, refined lady and she will be dearly missed by so many. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you all at this very sad time.

  6. Our deepest condolences to Paula’s family. It is sad to loose a person who does so much good. We will keep the family in our prayers.

  7. I am absolutely devasted. I cannot imagine cancer or anything else EVER getting the better of Paula. At OLP, she was always the tops. SO VERY INTELLIGENT AND ADULT! I last spoke to her in 1965, and even that was kind of a fluke. Mostly, it was OLP. She joined us in the third grade. We graduated in 1962. I went to Notre Dame High School. She went to Alemany. I cannot believe I have been living in a Paula-less world these past years. I was not part of her life at all, but I just liked the fact that she was around somewhere blessing the earth with her presence. Paula was my first wife’s hero. They went to Alemany together. My second wife, an RN, once met Paula at UCLA-Santa Monica Hospital. She was very impressed with how very well Paula did her job. I am so very sorry. Bill Arlotto (I now go by Will, not Bill) August 2007

  8. I remember Paula Carabelli as if it was just last year that we walked the halls of Alemany and assembled in the quad. She was smart, poised and classy in a very cool sophisticated way, which was not an easy accomplishment for any young teenager. That is what made her different. While we were fighting pimples, hormones and extra fat, she was the picture of control and peace. She embodied what a young catholic high school girl should be and I wanted to be just like her. Alas, that was not possible, so I settled to be her friend. I have never forgotten Paula because she was so unique for her age and time. Popular, kind, graceful, smart and a leader, what rare qualities for one so young. Now I understand, she was an old soul shinning out God’s purpose with a limited time to do it. When most of us were just trying to figure out who we were and why were here, Paula already knew. I am glad our paths crossed this lifetime; the world is definitely better because she was here. My prayers are with those she left behind. May God’s peace and the memories of Paula bring you comfort in the tough times of grief ahead.

  9. Dear Mr. Fallo—I was shocked to learn of Paula’s death. I will always remember her as will so many of us here at Emory who were hired by her. Paula had the gift of friendship and caring in addition to her dedication and competence. I know her marriage brought her great joy. Please know that I will hold Paula and you in my thoughts and prayers. Dana Greene Dean emerita Oxford College of Emory University

  10. Our beloved cousin Paula taught well by example! Love,Grace,Humility,Courage, Serenity,Gratitude,Faith,Hope. LOVE-Paula-LOVE Ciao our sweet and loving angel! xDavid and ‘Mary Catherine’ Strasshofer ******************************** “Life is a series of moments. They are mundane. They are profound. They are once in a lifetime. They are fluid. They are fleeting. They are yours to make it happen.” “Do more.” **********************************

  11. I worked with Paula as a professional colleague in executive search from the mid nineties through 2002. Paula excelled….setting the standard for quality search, hard work, constant and eager learning, active listening and the way she treated people. The latter was based on her genuine, basic goodness and Christian faith and values. Paula could have been the center of attention, and frequently was, but it was not important to her. She was genuinely interested in nurturing the gifts of others….her family, friends and other professional contacts. I suffered a brain injury/surgery due to a blading accident. Paula sent me a Christmas ornament roller blader with Angel wings. She had wonderful gifts of caring and kindness, a gentle sense of humor, occasional irreverence and a beautiful sparkle in her eyes. My heart goes out to you, Tom, and Emily, and the rest of her family, along with much prayer. Paula, we know you are in a better place and no longer suffering, but we miss you, dear friend. Well done, thou good and faithful servant. dan ford

  12. I first met Paula when she was a resident in the MHA program at UCLA and putting in her year at Santa Monica Hospital. She was then a young lady with class in everything she did, and she showed that in her work before and after Santa Monica. We all watched Emily grow as a high school student, go off to Emory and shared Paula’s pride in her daughter’s progrss. She was a friend.. I share the tremendous loss that her family must feel.

  13. While doing a random search to check up on old friends I typed in Paula’s name. I am stunned to learn of her death. I met Paula in Rosebud, South Dakota. She taught me how to cook, to draw, color theory. I think of her every time I make anything healthy and natural. I have carried her with me all these years and now I learn that she is gone. My heart felt sympathies to the family. Your are so lucky to have spent so many years with her grace and beauty. Mary McCusker

  14. Dear Ada and Paul: Yesterday,my daughter, Sally, found Paula’s obituary on the internet….Please accept my sincere sympathy in your loss and of course to her husband, Thomas and daughter, Emily. It has to be doubly difficult to experience the loss of one’s child. Remember us, I was Shirley Stanley then, on Forbes ave. in Van Nuys….and Chris and Sally were 3 and 5 when we moved from there… many changes in our lives, Dan died in 1989 and I remarried in 2006 and now live in Florida and Michigan… I hope you will write to me and tell me how the rest of your life has progressed …hopefully not as sad as losing your daughter though ….Sincerely, Shirley shansen1@comcast.net

  15. Dear Ada and Paul: Yesterday,my daughter, Sally, found Paula’s obituary on the internet….Please accept my sincere sympathy in your loss and of course to her husband, Thomas and daughter, Emily. It has to be doubly difficult to experience the loss of one’s child. Remember us, I was Shirley Stanley then, on Forbes ave. in Van Nuys….and Chris and Sally were 3 and 5 when we moved from there… many changes in our lives, Dan died in 1989 and I remarried in 2006 and now live in Florida and Michigan… I hope you will write to me and tell me how the rest of your life has progressed …hopefully not as sad as losing your daughter though ….Sincerely, Shirley shansen1@comcast.net

  16. Dear Ada and Paul: Yesterday,my daughter, Sally, found Paula’s obituary on the internet….Please accept my sincere sympathy in your loss and of course to her husband, Thomas and daughter, Emily. It has to be doubly difficult to experience the loss of one’s child. Remember us, I was Shirley Stanley then, on Forbes ave. in Van Nuys….and Chris and Sally were 3 and 5 when we moved from there… many changes in our lives, Dan died in 1989 and I remarried in 2006 and now live in Florida and Michigan… I hope you will write to me and tell me how the rest of your life has progressed …hopefully not as sad as losing your daughter though ….Sincerely, Shirley shansen1@comcast.net

  17. To Barbara, Paula’s Sister – Barbara…I remember your family well when we were your neighbors from 1955-1958 before moving to Dad’s native Buffalo NY. Our family valued your friendship & I wrote to your Mom/Dad even into the 1990’s. I had the idea of sending 70th birthday greetings to your Sister Paula & found out to my grief that she passed away nearly 12 years ago. I valued my family’s friendship with yours & I appreciate the time we all spent together. Blessings to you & to your family. Chip King from 9218 Whitaker Ave., North Hills, CA

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