May 13, 1938 ~ June 5, 2022

Born in: Newark, New York
Resided in: Palos Verdes Estates, California

Patricia “Patti” H. Kaupp, 84, of Palos Verdes Estates, California, passed away peacefully at home on Sunday, June 5, 2022 after a short battle with cancer.

Patti was born on May 13, 1938 to Betty E. Snyder and John B. Hines in Newark, New York. Patti grew up in Newark, New York where she graduated high school in 1958 and met her future husband, Norbett “Norb” Kaupp. She attended Nazareth College in Pittsford, New York. She and Norb were married May 14, 1960 in Newark, New York where they raised their three daughters, Felicia, Jennifer and Sarah. Patti created a happy, joyful home, where she welcomed friends and strangers. It was impossible to leave a visit to their home without a full stomach, a warm heart, and great stories. Many people say it was their second home, a place to laugh and spend time with their dear friend and her family.

Patti and Norb moved to Southern California in July 1984 and quickly acclimated to Palos Verdes Estates, where they would contentedly live for the rest of their lives. Patti lost the love of her life and her soulmate when her husband Norb was taken by cancer far too early. Patti never succumbed to despair. She was bolstered and strengthened by her family and community ties. She was passionate about her faith and a loyal member to Neighborhood Church for many decades, and most recently, Rolling Hills United Methodist Church. In her free time, she was a devoted grandmother attending most sporting events in both Southern California and New Hampshire areas. Patti was adored and will be missed by her many friends and family. She was happiest spending quality time with her family, especially her grand and great-grandchildren.

Patti was predeceased by her husband, Norbett (2001). She is survived by her daughters, Felicia (Gene) Kosman; Jennifer Hayday; Sarah (Kevin) Boyle and her five grandchildren, Paige (Timothy) Vos; Isabelle and Mitchell Kosman; Henry and Gordon Boyle; as well as her two great-grandchildren, Timothy Jr. and Alice Vos.

A Celebration of Life and Memorial Service will be held Thursday, July 28, 2022 from 1:00 pm at Rolling Hills United Methodist Church, 26438 Crenshaw Blvd., Rolling Hills Estates, California. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made in Patti’s name to Rolling Hills United Methodist Church (RHUMC) .


Service: July 28, 2022 1:00 pm

Rolling Hills United Methodist Church
26438 Crenshaw Blvd.
Rolling Hills, CA 90274


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  1. candle 2Jen,
    Only love and prayers for you and your family. I know how very close you were to your mom❤️ May she rest in heaven.

  2. My heart sank when I heard about Patti. I recall her driving up and down Grace Ave constantly. Always with a wave and smile. Felicia, Jennifer and Sarah we have great memories of your mom and dad❤️
    I am certain your mother left you with great strength and wisdom. Please know David and I care very sincerely. Hugs to you all 💕

  3. It seems like yesterday we shared donuts and coffee on the patio to meet the new neighbors. What a blessing and lucky day for us. Patti was, and her family is, a treasure for the neighborhood and the community. No praise for her is enough. The loss cannot be overstated. Our best friend for 38 years will be missed every day for the rest of our lives.

  4. candle 7You truly were a Saint – your light will shine through your family and all those who had the blessing to meet you – God’s Speed Patti

  5. Patti truly was a reflection of God‘s love and I know this is so hard for your family. I will continue to pray for your healing hearts. She was so proud of her family and loved you all very much. It was an honor to have known her even though it was a short period of time. Please let me know if there’s anything I can do. A lot of prayer and hugs to your family.

  6. candle 2So many happy memories Jennifer at your mom & dad’s place for celebrations or just a lovely gathering of friends. May she rest in peace leaving all of you with so much love. Sending hugs and prayers to everyone.

  7. I’m so sorry Sarah, Jennifer and Felicia. It’s sad to hear about the loss of a great lady. Your mother was always such a good person and treated me great when we were young. She will be missed.

  8. candle 1Patti welcomed John, Lauren and I into her home as we visited frequently when Sarah’s boys were little. Sarah and Kevin are long time friends from WA. Lauren affectionately referred to her as Grandma Patti. My heart aches that I did not get to see Patti before she passed. I trust in God that she is with her Norb and still cutting coupons! Much love to the entire family. ❤️❤️🙏🙏

  9. candle 7Took me a while to even attempt to put in words how important Patti and Jen are to me. For the last 38 years it was just a given that I would be included in the Kaupp Family gatherings and festivities at Patti’s lovely home and that I would be treated as a part of the family and welcomed with love and great food and laughter and kindness.
    Patti would send me greeting cards through the years – urging me to hang on when things were rough – and when she faced her final devastating illness – knowing that “hanging on” wasn’t possible in her scenario- she showed such courage and humor and faith and love ❤️ I feel so grateful I knew Patti, so grateful being made a part of the Kaupp family was the wonderful bonus of being Jennifer’s friend – as the Kilroy’s so poignantly wrote – I too will miss Patti everyday – but we all go sometime – but few of us will leave this life – so loved and such a positive force for others or with her remarkable living legacy – her beautiful children – grandchildren and great grandchildren-
    You had a good run Patti – you are so loved – you live in our memory – and enjoy heaven with your Norb

  10. Kaupp Family,
    Saddened to read of your Moms passing. We have kept in touch through all the years, something Ed and myself will miss. Thinking of you all at this time.

  11. So sorry to hear of Patti’s passing. We graduated together in 1956 and kept in touch over the years

  12. candle 2I have been fortunate to know this wonderful family. Patti was its center of gravity. Her spirit touched us. RIP.

  13. Patti will be missed by all that knew her warm smile and caring heart. Her summer visits to Rochester were the highlight of my month and left me smiling after each visit and always short a raspberry pie or two!

  14. The great American story- Patti and I both grew up on West Miller Street in Newark N.Y. – Our parents were friends as were our grandparents. I still remember Patti driving her grandfather’s 1948 Chevrolet around town.
    Patti was very loyal to her Newark connections. If someone passed away you could count on her flying to Rochester, renting a car and staying at the local hotel, attending the services.

  15. Patti was a great friend of my mother’s and of mine. In the wonderful Neighborhood Church days she was one of the key people who basically ran that church from behind the scenes along with Ellen Ellis, Marge Caterson, and my mother Ruth Graham. She had limitless energy, was smart and organized, and was a straight talker — you always knew what she thought, and she was usually right. Way too many memories of her to list here. I was glad to be able to see her shortly before she passed. It’s hard to believe she is gone.

  16. Patti
    I will miss you forever until we meet again. You were everyone’s rock you knew what was needed any hour of the day. Your kind heart and compassion will be missed.

    Annie Nathenson
    LaQuinta, CA

  17. Your parents were always great friends to my mom and dad, Harry & Pauline VandeMortel, I have many pictures of them together ♥️

  18. So sorry to hear of Patti’s passing. I have great memories of her and Norb. Cocktail parties, picnics and of course the Newark County Club. They were such good friends of my father Gene.
    Rest in peace

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