Kay Ellen Mikolajczyk (née Freisthler) died peacefully in her home, surrounded by family on August 8, 2018 in Torrance, California at the age of 61. Kay is survived by her husband of 34 years Tom, sons Matthew and Andrew, siblings Mark and Kim, Sue and Ron, and nieces and nephews Lindsey, Markus, Marla, David, Amy, Kenny, and Scott. Kay was born on July 24, 1957 at Torrance Memorial Hospital to Ruth and Urban Freisthler. A graduate from Cal State University, Dominguez Hills, Kay began working at TRW in 1980, where she met Tom, and married in 1984. Over 34 years, the couple welcomed two children into their life, who remember her as a kind, gentle, loving mother who encouraged them to follow their hearts and pursue their goals and dreams. Kay enjoyed mystery novels, classic movies and television shows, traveling with her husband, and of course, Angels baseball. Most of all, Kay loved spending time with her family. To celebrate Kay’s life and the many ways she has touched all of ours, a memorial will be held on Friday, August 17 at 11:30 at the Lighthouse Memorials and Receptions - White & Day Center, 901 Torrance Boulevard, Redondo Beach 90277. In lieu of flowers, consider a donation to the Keep A Breast Foundation (www.keep-a-breast.org). Breast cancer awareness and research is needed to “Fund the Fight, Find a Cure!”. May we suggest/request you to “Spend Some Love”: reach out, renew, revive, “dust off” a forgotten or cold relationship via a simple phone call or meal to reconnect with someone… I’d like to hear from you. Please send your messages and share memories of Kay to www.lafuneral.com. Thank YOU!

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  1. To Tom, Matthew, Andrew and all Kay’s family… I am so very, truly sorry for your loss. Kay was a constant source of laughter, advise, comfort and sanity over the many years I’ve had the pleasure to know her. Her down-to-earth approach to dealing with everything life handed her was an example of how I could deal with my own life. More than once I’ve asked myself “What would Kay do?”. She is at peace now, and I pray you all are able to focus on the joy she brought into your lives. Unfortunately, I am out of town now, so I’ll miss the memorial. But please know I’m just a few blocks away, and available to help in anyway that I can. My sincerest condolences on your loss…

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