Thomka, Gary Coleman, a 5 year resident of Anaheim and longtime resident of Hermosa Beach, passed away on Tuesday, April 29, 2008 in Anaheim. Born in Homestead, PA, Gary was 53 when he died. He is survived by his Sister, Patricia Fry of Monroeville, PA, Brothers, Albert of Green Valley, AZ and Charles of Redondo Beach, CA. A gathering of family & friends will be Friday, May 2, 2008 from 6:00 P.M. to 9:00 P.M. and Saturday, May 3, 2008 from 2:00 P.M. to 6:00 P.M. both at White & Day Colonial Mortuary in Redondo Beach, CA. The Service will be private.

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  1. A million times we will miss you, A million times we will cry. If love alone could of saved you, you would of never died. In life we loved you dearly, in death we love you still. In our hearts we hold a place no other one could fill. The Golden Gates stood open, God saw you needed rest, Gods garden must be beautiful, he always picks the best. I will miss my Uncle Gary everyday for the rest of my life. He was a wonderful, loving, caring man. We all believe that he was to young to die but obviously God had a greater plan for him and I can at least rest in the knowledge that he is finally back in the arms of his parents (my grandparents) and that he will be watching over me and the rest of our family always.

  2. I had the great honor of sharing my life with Gary for the last weeks of his life. He filled my life with laughter, hope and love. He had told me that I had given him what he wanted and needed in life, and that was a partner that truly loved him with all of his problems, his past, and his weaknesses to help make him strong and to make him the person that he wanted to be again. He had always considered my feelings in every way, and told me that he had fallen in love with me, and that I had made him so very very happy. Gary gave me so much in so many ways that I cannot even begin to explain. I wish to thank the Thomka family for making sure that I was able to attend Gary’s services, and invited me into their home. Thank you Pat, Bud, Chuck, Lori and Mary Lou for everything.

  3. My brothers and I would like to thank you for loving our brother Gary. This has been a tough time for us, but everyone who shared memories and expressed condolences helped bring us peace. It is wonderful to know you cared for him, too. Thank you, Pat Thomka Fry

  4. 1’1/ remember Gary as the neighborhood “cutie’: driving down 14thAve. in his Corvette!!He was a good friend & my thoughts & prayers are with you, his family.

  5. Gary, you were a great friend and neighbor. Yougot me through some rough times and for that I am forever grateful. Wish I could have seen you one more time….. Thanks for everything.

  6. Dear Family, Thankyou for sharing Gary with the world. He was a classmate (Steel Valley High School, Class of 1973)who ventured beyond Homestead to share his positive influence with so many others. His legacy lives on! You remain in my thoughts and prayers.

  7. Dear Pat & Lenny, Yes we remember your brother Gary and we so very sorry to hear that he had passed away -particularly because he was so young. He wasyounger than our Steve. Please give our sympathy to your family. Lots & lots of love, Joyce & Larry

  8. The video put together by the web site was beautifully done. A beautiful tribute to Gary. Especially the last photo of him waving at the camera. We only knew Gary for the past 7 years but he was a keeper of a friend. Made of whole family laugh many many times. Brightened up our dinners together. Gary we will miss you! Tom and Celia Biesek

  9. Dear Bud, Chuck & Pat, Please accept my deepest sympathy to you and your families in the passing of your brother, Gary. You will be in my prayers and thoughts at this most difficult time. God Bless all of you.

  10. I will miss you Gary. We always had such fun at family gatherings. You made me laugh and that was good. See you later. Love, Donna

  11. Dear Gary, It seems like yesterday that you and I were in your living room watching Supermanand Aunt Jane was making us Isaly’s barbecue chip-chop ham sandwiches. I will cherish my memories of all the times we spent together up on the farm and at Uncle AI’s cabin. All the family sitting at the largest kitchen table I ever saw. Jill and I have wonderful memories of our times together – our wedding, Vegas,and get together’s in Canfield. But mostly your love and laughter! Gary, your life will live on forever in my heart and in the hearts and lives of those you touched. Your loving cousin, Larry

  12. Gone are the days we used to share, But in our hearts you are always there, The gates of memory will never close, We miss you more than anyone knows, With tender love and deep regret, We who love you will never forget. Rest in peace Uncle Gary.

  13. On behalf of myself and my family please accept my thank you for all your prayers and condolences in memory of Gary. I will miss him and love him forever.

  14. Some of the best only get to stay with us such a short time. It never seems fair and never hurts less – it just happens. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Juel

  15. I will miss you Uncle Gary. My heartfelt sympathies goes out to my mother and his sister Pat Fry, and also to his brothers Chuck and Bud Thomka and their families.

  16. I know that Gary appreciates all the friends who have sent or brought their heartfelt condolences to the family. I personally thank everybody, as well.

  17. On behalf of my family I want to thank everyone who expressed their sympathy. I also want to apologize for temporarily removing this website which resulted in all the memorial postings being lost. I hope that if you visit the site again or for the first time that you will post your thoughts on behalf of Gary. My baby brother is going to be missed because he always brought a smile upon your face no matter what kind of mood you were in.

  18. Gary, I saw you video tribute for the first time yesterday (7/22/2008) because I just did not have the strength to view it until then. I cry every day because I miss you so much. You have always been my strength and faith no matter what kind of mood I was in. You always brought the sunshine into my life even if we just talked on the phone. When you stayed with Bud and me on the weekends it was always the highlight of my day. I don’t think that I will ever be the same person since you left and I just know that you are giving joy and happiness to everyone in heaven and I will see you again but until then my heart is broken but I will survive.

  19. I wanted to extend my deepest sympathy to you in the loss of Gary. I own the Hi Level Lounge in Homestead and Gary was a customer and a dear friend. He called me on Good Friday and left a message and I did not return the call and really feel quilt and loss. The message is still on my recorder to remind me to call him and I have listened to it over and over and had no idea that that was going to be my last time to talk with him. He was a great guy and will be missed by all that knew him.

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